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I'd agree in part with Metallix; I would say that you need to stop being so shy, because it will never do anything but hold you back. Do this by going out there and being vulnerable despite feeling afraid, because you'll never stop being afraid until you start acting differently. Right now, you're letting your feelings control you, and it's hurting you in alot of ways; learn to act the way that's right and best for you despite (not without; emotions never really go away, they only change), whatever your feelings may be. Hiding will only make it worse, whereas this kind of behavior will make the fear slowly ebb.

Also, accept that you WILL run into failure when you start acting differently. This is to be expected, and should not discourage you; sooner or later, you will grow out of it in your own way. Above all, try not to think about yourself too much, and be as extroverted as you possibly can. Shyness typically comes from egotism; shyness tends to evaporate when you're thinking all about how other people feel, rather than focusing on how you feel, or what they think of you. What can you do to make someone else's day brighter?

That said, I would NOT use this crush as your first step towards getting over your fear. From my experience, even when the girl is insecure, lonely, unhappy, and yearns to be liked by someone with all her heart, she will not react well to a sudden "I like you," especially when it's from a shy, stuttering boy.

Instead, I would continue to be her friend, but I would do everything in your power to be a better friend. Become as interested in her as you'd like her to be in you (in a friendly way). Find ways to make her feel like a special friend who really makes your day brighter. Go out of your way to get to know her better, and to just be chums with her. Be the kind of person she can be comfortable just fooling around with, or going to for problems; and don't just do it to get her attention! Let everything you do be a genuine expression for the care that you feel for her! But keep it friendly.

Then, when you two know each other much better, and you are much more comfortable as friends, and you've matured a little bit (trust me, it will happen), if you still have romantic feelings for her (and that's a big if), I think you'll have a much easier time handling it properly, and I think she's a thousand times more likely to handle it with equal maturity and wisdom.

Frankly, I don't think that alot can come out of this right now. It seems like the typical middle-school crush to me, and I can tell you, those rarely go well, and almost always hurt both sides.

I don't feel totally adequate answering this as a girl, so here's some advice I got from a guy-friend of mine.


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Here's what I do when I get a crush:

First, admit it to yourself. Telling yourself that there's really no feelings there, that it's your imagination or just completely ignoring it is not gonna help. If you do that, it'll only keep her on your mind even more than letting yourself understand your feelings for her. Which brings me to the next step.

Second, understand your feelings. Look at them for what they really are. Don't exaggerate them, don't belittle them, don't sugar-coat them. You have a largely superficial attraction to someone you probably don't know very well.

Third, be a friend. Get to know her. When you're around each other, don't try to avoid her or it'll probably just put more stress on you and make you think about her even more. If the opportunity presents itself, don't turn down the chance to just hang out and be a friend to her. Realize that yes, you have feelings for her, but you aren't gonna let them control you and you're just gonna be friends.

Lastly, be patient. Usually, after time, those feelings will disappear and you've just gained a friend. And if those feelings don't disappear by the time you're actually old enough to be seriously thinking about a wife and you've by this time gotten to know her a lot better, well, maybe there's something to it. .

Above all, if you do anything, accept that you are what you are, and what she thinks doesn't really matter. If she rejects you, there are a hundred thousand out there who would reject her, but that doesn't change the beauty that captivated you. In the same way, rejection will not change you, unless you let it. Again, attitude is more important than what actually happens, and actions are more important than your emotions.