I feel like a hypocrite...or something.

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I feel like a hypocrite...or something.
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506	May 21 2008, 06:58 PM Post #1
Hydrocity Act 1 Posts: 98 Group: C Rank Adventurer Member #1,939 Joined: August 14, 2007	Ok, now this one knows he's been all calm and collected in his responses in the love life help topics...buuuuuut. Yeah, heres the situation. This one has been friends with this girl for about 3 months, two maybe, this one does'nt keep track of time. And this one has sort of devolped feelings for her, which hes far too shy to admit. Yet today, she tells me that this ones friend said "so are you the stephy that (506) has been talking about" This one doesent call her any pet names to begin with and he doesent talk about her really...far too shy. But she smiled at it, so this one is confused as to what to do...especially exactly how he's going to approach her with a statement of said feelings tommarow..or in any time period. What does this social outcast do? This is as much asking for advice as it is reassurance, and venting, just so you know.



Neo Metallix	May 21 2008, 07:05 PM Post #2
~Doomsday Overlord~ Posts: 15,568 Group: =SB= Emperor Member #1 Joined: April 8, 2006 Gender: Male Country: United States of America Playstation Network ID: Doc_Of_D Game Currently Playing: Tales of Xillia	I've experienced being too shy so many times I'm fed up with it. I'd just say to tell her she's liked or to ask her out? It's better than going through life miserable and wondering how she feels.
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Lord DragonFlame	May 22 2008, 11:43 AM Post #3
Christmas is back again Posts: 17,411 Group: Former Monarchs Member #348 Joined: December 9, 2006 Gender: Male Steam ID: Warzak85DF	^^If i would follow your advice there Neo, then maybe someone would have picked up my signal what i had for eternity wanted to tell though standed to shy to manage. That is my problem as well. So i can understand your friend that it stays hard to ask her what she feels when so in fear what she might add.
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Katsuko	May 22 2008, 02:44 PM Post #4
Sandopolis Act 1 Posts: 1,687 Group: S Rank Hero Member #1,933 Joined: August 14, 2007 Gender: Male	I'd agree in part with Metallix; I would say that you need to stop being so shy, because it will never do anything but hold you back. Do this by going out there and being vulnerable despite feeling afraid, because you'll never stop being afraid until you start acting differently. Right now, you're letting your feelings control you, and it's hurting you in alot of ways; learn to act the way that's right and best for you despite (not without; emotions never really go away, they only change), whatever your feelings may be. Hiding will only make it worse, whereas this kind of behavior will make the fear slowly ebb. Also, accept that you WILL run into failure when you start acting differently. This is to be expected, and should not discourage you; sooner or later, you will grow out of it in your own way. Above all, try not to think about yourself too much, and be as extroverted as you possibly can. Shyness typically comes from egotism; shyness tends to evaporate when you're thinking all about how other people feel, rather than focusing on how you feel, or what they think of you. What can you do to make someone else's day brighter? That said, I would NOT use this crush as your first step towards getting over your fear. From my experience, even when the girl is insecure, lonely, unhappy, and yearns to be liked by someone with all her heart, she will not react well to a sudden "I like you," especially when it's from a shy, stuttering boy. Instead, I would continue to be her friend, but I would do everything in your power to be a better friend. Become as interested in her as you'd like her to be in you (in a friendly way). Find ways to make her feel like a special friend who really makes your day brighter. Go out of your way to get to know her better, and to just be chums with her. Be the kind of person she can be comfortable just fooling around with, or going to for problems; and don't just do it to get her attention! Let everything you do be a genuine expression for the care that you feel for her! But keep it friendly. Then, when you two know each other much better, and you are much more comfortable as friends, and you've matured a little bit (trust me, it will happen), if you still have romantic feelings for her (and that's a big if), I think you'll have a much easier time handling it properly, and I think she's a thousand times more likely to handle it with equal maturity and wisdom. Frankly, I don't think that alot can come out of this right now. It seems like the typical middle-school crush to me, and I can tell you, those rarely go well, and almost always hurt both sides. I don't feel totally adequate answering this as a girl, so here's some advice I got from a guy-friend of mine. Quote: Here's what I do when I get a crush: First, admit it to yourself. Telling yourself that there's really no feelings there, that it's your imagination or just completely ignoring it is not gonna help. If you do that, it'll only keep her on your mind even more than letting yourself understand your feelings for her. Which brings me to the next step. Second, understand your feelings. Look at them for what they really are. Don't exaggerate them, don't belittle them, don't sugar-coat them. You have a largely superficial attraction to someone you probably don't know very well. Third, be a friend. Get to know her. When you're around each other, don't try to avoid her or it'll probably just put more stress on you and make you think about her even more. If the opportunity presents itself, don't turn down the chance to just hang out and be a friend to her. Realize that yes, you have feelings for her, but you aren't gonna let them control you and you're just gonna be friends. Lastly, be patient. Usually, after time, those feelings will disappear and you've just gained a friend. And if those feelings don't disappear by the time you're actually old enough to be seriously thinking about a wife and you've by this time gotten to know her a lot better, well, maybe there's something to it. . Above all, if you do anything, accept that you are what you are, and what she thinks doesn't really matter. If she rejects you, there are a hundred thousand out there who would reject her, but that doesn't change the beauty that captivated you. In the same way, rejection will not change you, unless you let it. Again, attitude is more important than what actually happens, and actions are more important than your emotions.
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506	May 22 2008, 04:22 PM Post #5
Hydrocity Act 1 Posts: 98 Group: C Rank Adventurer Member #1,939 Joined: August 14, 2007	Thanks guys. In response to Yvette... Understanding peoples feelings...yeah. Are you familiar with Aspergers? It's a condition where one has difficulty percieving emotions and such from other people. Think of it as social retardation, and this one has been diagnosed with it. This one thinks this miiiight be a major hurdle that would prevent him from having a relationship, intimate or otherwise. But the situation was solved, and we are still friends. This one honestly perfers it as such... This one thanks all of you very much for your assistance. ...And would like us all to forget this ever happend ^^;



~~Brennen the Vampire~~	May 22 2008, 05:04 PM Post #6
Banned Posts: 3,071 Group: Continue? Member #1,722 Joined: July 19, 2007	Use the way I went up to Cona. Stand and say proudly... "You might think I'm wierd, but I like you." Now I do that whenever I become a friend of someone I like. It becomes easy. But sorry it didn't work out for you. :mellow:



shadowsminion	May 22 2008, 05:20 PM Post #7
Diamond: Protector of Space Posts: 1,801 Group: S Rank Hero Member #6,183 Joined: February 23, 2008	Well, I'm glad that your crush didn't crush you and that you're still friends, very good.



Neo Metallix	May 22 2008, 05:44 PM Post #8
~Doomsday Overlord~ Posts: 15,568 Group: =SB= Emperor Member #1 Joined: April 8, 2006 Gender: Male Country: United States of America Playstation Network ID: Doc_Of_D Game Currently Playing: Tales of Xillia	DragonFlame May 22 2008, 12:43 PM ^^If i would follow your advice there Neo, then maybe someone would have picked up my signal what i had for eternity wanted to tell though standed to shy to manage. That is my problem as well. So i can understand your friend that it stays hard to ask her what she feels when so in fear what she might add. Well I know it's hard to not be shy. So what I said is easier said than done, but I agree with Yvette.
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cap	May 23 2008, 07:10 AM Post #9
Wired to the moon Posts: 2,049 Group: C Rank Adventurer Member #5,164 Joined: January 17, 2008	As its been said. Easier said than done. If your shy, you can't just walk up and say whatever you want, because your constantly thinking of what could go wrong, and thats the probelm plenty of people, including me have. Even if you just say, whats the worst that could happen or I might as well just go for it, even then its a nightmare. @ Dark TE. yeah, asking someone over the internet works much differently.
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Gale	May 29 2008, 12:02 PM Post #10
<3 Posts: 1,779 Group: S Rank Hero Member #3,090 Joined: October 23, 2007 Gender: Female	That could almost imply that you think it's weird to like her. o: Which would be a big no-no. >:



Neo Metallix	May 29 2008, 03:17 PM Post #11
~Doomsday Overlord~ Posts: 15,568 Group: =SB= Emperor Member #1 Joined: April 8, 2006 Gender: Male Country: United States of America Playstation Network ID: Doc_Of_D Game Currently Playing: Tales of Xillia	Wow girls are weird... If a girl I knew from school found my IM and asked me out online, I wouldn't think it implied anything except they were shy. I wouldn't say yes though, I'd likely say no. haha, just because... well I have my reasons.
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~~Eprahim~~	May 30 2008, 08:34 AM Post #12
Lava Reef Act 2 Posts: 4,075 Group: Game Over :( Member #3,768 Joined: November 21, 2007	@Dark: The Internets are very very very very different things from the reality.



Katsuko	May 30 2008, 08:48 PM Post #13
Sandopolis Act 1 Posts: 1,687 Group: S Rank Hero Member #1,933 Joined: August 14, 2007 Gender: Male	Asking anyone to start anything romantic over the internet is a fairly large no-no, presuming you know them in real life. If you're that shy about it, you don't know them well enough, and you're not comfortable/mature enough to go anywhere with it. Man up.
	<3 All you need is love <3


Neo Metallix	May 30 2008, 08:51 PM Post #14
~Doomsday Overlord~ Posts: 15,568 Group: =SB= Emperor Member #1 Joined: April 8, 2006 Gender: Male Country: United States of America Playstation Network ID: Doc_Of_D Game Currently Playing: Tales of Xillia	All I'm saying is I wouldn't care. Although I've only been asked out once by a girl and that was in person, so Idk. I guess I just don't care how they ask, if they do.
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