Some advice please...?

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Some advice please...?; Anyone who's good at advice giving...
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Shady Kayoz	Feb 23 2013, 05:01 PM Post #1
It's Shady, baby. Posts: 1,677 Group: S Rank Hero Member #13,210 Joined: August 20, 2012 Gender: Female Country: Australia Wii Friend Code: I don't have a Wii ^.^ 3DS Friend Code: 2492 - 4957 - 9476 Game Currently Playing: Sonic Generations, Sonic Unleashed.	I'm going out with a boy/girl in my grade. We've only been going out for a bit over a week. And I think I'm really obsessed with him/her and I put his.her name down in google images, i think about him/her all the time. And I really want to have sex with her/him. I know I don't want to use him/her for sex, I love him/her too much to let go of him/her. I also think I'm a bit clingy to him/her, he/she just got suspended for ten days and it's only been two so far and I wish he/she would come back already.Right now it's like he/she is my drug and it's like I'm having with drawal or something. I tryed not to cry before, because I don't want him/her to feel like I'm clinging too. Because I know thats a bad thing for a relationship. What do you think? Am I too obsessed and clingy with him/her? Additional Details Oh by the way I'm doing the him/her thing because, the person has gender issues and would like to be known as a male but the person has female genatles still. I don't want to call the person an "it" either because that word would just feel offensive if I was to use it on my love... This person has also been a verry good friend with me. We talk alot before we started going out, and I kinda liked this person since last year.
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Wallace	Feb 23 2013, 05:58 PM Post #2
Break out the L-word. The other L-word. Posts: 1,889 Group: S Rank Hero Member #11,873 Joined: February 24, 2011	Yes, I think you're probably a bit too attached to this person. By the way, if he wants to be referred to or seen as a male, call him a male. In almost all cases, transgender individuals prefer to be called by the gender they identify with, not the gender of their genitalia. Perhaps mention from the get-go that he is transgender, but it's really all irrelevant information, anyways, and could be done without. But back to what I was saying. Usually -- and I say this from first-hand experience -- there is a reason, or some basic need, that wanting a person this badly satisfies. Sometimes it's lust. Sometimes it's the desire for companionship. Sometimes it's the need for a person who cares about you. That's only a few. It seems to me, by your limited explanation, that your desire for him is mostly or at the very least majorly sexual, and also the need for a person to be a positive idol and lover. Generally, from what I've found, relationships in which one or both of the partners are almost entirely dependent on the other for their presence, affection, or body in order to be happy, are unhealthy. Can you not talk to him at all while he's gone? Text, Skype, something? However awkward or bad it may seem to you to be, talking through these things with the person involved can usually be very effective in resolving the issue or coming to some sort of understanding. If you do have a chance, try to talk to him about these things, and ask him how he feels about them. I guess that's about as much help as I can give right now. Best of luck to you with him.
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Silver Miles	Feb 23 2013, 05:58 PM Post #3
...... Posts: 407 Group: D Rank Knight Member #12,245 Joined: July 19, 2011 Gender: Male Country: Brazil 3DS Friend Code: 4511-1909-9248 Steam ID: 45tailsfan Game Currently Playing: Pokemon Mystery Universe	Don't you think you are rushing things too much? Before you really have sex with someone, you must deeply trust the person wich you are doing it with. Also is this really a one sided love or he/she also show signs of liking you as well? Sometimes this kind of obsession is not even love as well, you might be WISHING the person but not LOVING the person. Before you decide to take it too deep with the person thing for a bit: "Is this person the right one or I am just wishing but not loving". Do this before you do something you regret.
	Spoiler: click to toggle Dra.Halsey My Spartans are the next evolution of Man, our destiny as species... Your file says Missing in Action, do not underestimate my spartans general, but most of all do not underestimate HIM Spoiler: click to toggle I am a ninja, silient and deadly, in the shadows I hide, lurking for my opportunity


BLOPS2	Feb 23 2013, 06:15 PM Post #4
Walkers, Walkers everywhere Posts: 258 Group: B Rank Guardian Member #13,213 Joined: August 21, 2012 Gender: Male Country: United States of America Xbox Live Gamertag: RedCommander98 Steam ID: Kotor9803 Game Currently Playing: Blockland	Yeah, don't you think you're you know, RUSHING? You say you've only been going out with said person for a week, and you're already looking up pictures of them, let alone thinking of having sex with them? You're WAY too attached, sorry if I seem rude, but honestly.
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Silver Miles	Feb 23 2013, 06:54 PM Post #5
...... Posts: 407 Group: D Rank Knight Member #12,245 Joined: July 19, 2011 Gender: Male Country: Brazil 3DS Friend Code: 4511-1909-9248 Steam ID: 45tailsfan Game Currently Playing: Pokemon Mystery Universe	RussMan Feb 23 2013, 06:15 PM Yeah, don't you think you're you know, RUSHING? You say you've only been going out with said person for a week, and you're already looking up pictures of them, let alone thinking of having sex with them? You're WAY too attached, sorry if I seem rude, but honestly. So when this happens, this means it isn't love. It is desire. It is like saying you love someone but all you are interested is, who he/she is. If you really like the person, you will keep going with him/her slowly, without rushing things. Maybe rushes such as the one mentioned on this topic may make a person go away from you.
	Spoiler: click to toggle Dra.Halsey My Spartans are the next evolution of Man, our destiny as species... Your file says Missing in Action, do not underestimate my spartans general, but most of all do not underestimate HIM Spoiler: click to toggle I am a ninja, silient and deadly, in the shadows I hide, lurking for my opportunity


Shady Kayoz	Feb 23 2013, 07:00 PM Post #6
It's Shady, baby. Posts: 1,677 Group: S Rank Hero Member #13,210 Joined: August 20, 2012 Gender: Female Country: Australia Wii Friend Code: I don't have a Wii ^.^ 3DS Friend Code: 2492 - 4957 - 9476 Game Currently Playing: Sonic Generations, Sonic Unleashed.	Well thanks guys. But I don't really think I'm wishing though, he tolld me he's ready when I am. We both love eachother equally, well yeah I have to admit I'm obssesive and clingy but I just don't want to lose him We both do really normal silly things as a couple and both trust eachother, I think... But thanks again.
	Easy- Porter Robinson Find me on Facebook: Hady Perry Some of my quiz results Nega Shady "Forget who you have seen before. For this is just the begining, and no one can stop the power which I pocess.Looks are never as they seem, so fear me now or you shall die a fool." My wwffy quizes for Girls wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 2 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 3 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 4 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 5 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 6 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 7 NEW wwffy...? Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 8 Team Shadow Kidz Team Shadow Kidz members Shady the hedgehog (me) Josh the hedgehog JCat MGSPhantom Silver Miles Note:This has NOTHING to do with Dark Gaia, so anyone can join. Also P.M me if you have any qeustions or would like to join.


Silver Miles	Feb 23 2013, 07:42 PM Post #7
...... Posts: 407 Group: D Rank Knight Member #12,245 Joined: July 19, 2011 Gender: Male Country: Brazil 3DS Friend Code: 4511-1909-9248 Steam ID: 45tailsfan Game Currently Playing: Pokemon Mystery Universe	Shady baby Feb 23 2013, 07:00 PM Well thanks guys. But I don't really think I'm wishing though, he tolld me he's ready when I am. We both love eachother equally, well yeah I have to admit I'm obssesive and clingy but I just don't want to lose him We both do really normal silly things as a couple and both trust eachother, I think... But thanks again. Even tough you feel ready, think about it before you do. You don't want to regret not thinking about if that was the right time later on.
	Spoiler: click to toggle Dra.Halsey My Spartans are the next evolution of Man, our destiny as species... Your file says Missing in Action, do not underestimate my spartans general, but most of all do not underestimate HIM Spoiler: click to toggle I am a ninja, silient and deadly, in the shadows I hide, lurking for my opportunity


Shady Kayoz	Feb 23 2013, 07:43 PM Post #8
It's Shady, baby. Posts: 1,677 Group: S Rank Hero Member #13,210 Joined: August 20, 2012 Gender: Female Country: Australia Wii Friend Code: I don't have a Wii ^.^ 3DS Friend Code: 2492 - 4957 - 9476 Game Currently Playing: Sonic Generations, Sonic Unleashed.	Yeah, your'e right... (being legit you are right)
	Easy- Porter Robinson Find me on Facebook: Hady Perry Some of my quiz results Nega Shady "Forget who you have seen before. For this is just the begining, and no one can stop the power which I pocess.Looks are never as they seem, so fear me now or you shall die a fool." My wwffy quizes for Girls wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 2 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 3 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 4 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 5 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 6 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 7 NEW wwffy...? Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 8 Team Shadow Kidz Team Shadow Kidz members Shady the hedgehog (me) Josh the hedgehog JCat MGSPhantom Silver Miles Note:This has NOTHING to do with Dark Gaia, so anyone can join. Also P.M me if you have any qeustions or would like to join.


Silver Miles	Feb 23 2013, 07:48 PM Post #9
...... Posts: 407 Group: D Rank Knight Member #12,245 Joined: July 19, 2011 Gender: Male Country: Brazil 3DS Friend Code: 4511-1909-9248 Steam ID: 45tailsfan Game Currently Playing: Pokemon Mystery Universe	Just don't look strange at me. I done alot of stuff on my entire life i literally regret doing and if i had a chance, i would never do those things (and no i never made a girl pregnant :v). I just feel like with the experience i gotten, i could help people not doing what i did back then.
	Spoiler: click to toggle Dra.Halsey My Spartans are the next evolution of Man, our destiny as species... Your file says Missing in Action, do not underestimate my spartans general, but most of all do not underestimate HIM Spoiler: click to toggle I am a ninja, silient and deadly, in the shadows I hide, lurking for my opportunity


Retro-Chaos X	Feb 23 2013, 08:03 PM Post #10
Hydrocity Act 2 Posts: 116 Group: B Rank Adventurer Member #13,427 Joined: February 9, 2013 Gender: Male Xbox Live Gamertag: v aMaaZeD x Game Currently Playing: Sonic Adventure 2	As others have said, you are rushing into it. But it isn't love right now, after all, you've only been going out for a week, I think you're infatuated by him. I really wouldn't have sex with him this early, get to know him better, see if you really do love him and he is the one, and when you're ready, then do it if you wish to do so.
	Just Smile


Shady Kayoz	Feb 24 2013, 01:46 PM Post #11
It's Shady, baby. Posts: 1,677 Group: S Rank Hero Member #13,210 Joined: August 20, 2012 Gender: Female Country: Australia Wii Friend Code: I don't have a Wii ^.^ 3DS Friend Code: 2492 - 4957 - 9476 Game Currently Playing: Sonic Generations, Sonic Unleashed.	I showed my boyfriend this topic (yes this person is on the website.) And this is what he told me through P.M (My boyfriend) Yesterday 5:09pm aww, you're adorable. I'm willing to do everything at your pace. Nothing's awkward for me. I'd never intentionally hurt you, you know that. But also, don't do anything just to please me, if you're not happy with something, tell me. If you think we're going too fast, tell me. I love you. <3 And I replied with Shady baby Yesterday 5:12pm Well thanks and same here ifyou feel like I'm getting too clingly tell me. I can't really tell when I'm getting too clingly and it's one of my bad habbits $=\$
	Easy- Porter Robinson Find me on Facebook: Hady Perry Some of my quiz results Nega Shady "Forget who you have seen before. For this is just the begining, and no one can stop the power which I pocess.Looks are never as they seem, so fear me now or you shall die a fool." My wwffy quizes for Girls wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 2 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 3 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 4 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 5 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 6 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 7 NEW wwffy...? Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 8 Team Shadow Kidz Team Shadow Kidz members Shady the hedgehog (me) Josh the hedgehog JCat MGSPhantom Silver Miles Note:This has NOTHING to do with Dark Gaia, so anyone can join. Also P.M me if you have any qeustions or would like to join.


Lord Pianta	Feb 24 2013, 01:53 PM Post #12
Il Piantissimo Posts: 3,320 Group: Former Monarchs Member #9,741 Joined: February 7, 2009 Gender: Male Nintendo ID: Piantab	Looks like your boyfriend (though I thought it was kinda genderless?) has the right intentions. No need to worry about that - rushing the sex is never good, it'll come when the time is right. See it as something special, a moment you wanna cherish in your life. As for being clingy, it's been only one week. The first few weeks/months when you start dating it's all exciting and you need to adapt to the other persons desires. Don't scare them away or do anything you wouldn't want the other person to do. Silver Miles and RussMan are right on this part. Pretty much everything I wanted to say about this has already been said, this were my two cents. C:
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Eren Jaeger	Feb 26 2013, 12:43 PM Post #13
"I will kill ALL of the Titans!" Posts: 2,305 Group: S Rank Hero Member #12,433 Joined: October 2, 2011 Gender: Male	I kinda have a feeling I know who this "boyfriend" is. But it's also none of my business so I won't pry. It sounds like you kinda have a "Supernova" relationship as my friend has described before. Attached too quickly. The first initial reaction is incredible. A lot's going on, big bursts of energy, similar to two people being attached so quickly. Yeah, it's nice and all, but it's going to burn out quickly. Meaning you guys are setting yourselves up for failure. Take it in moderation. Take a day or two at a time to be apart. Sure, it's going to be rough, but what you guys are doing is essentially toxic. Especially since you guys are already talking about sex and I'm guessing you two aren't very old at all. Sure, it's not as dangerous with two feminine reproductive parts ~~seeing as you're just going to be vigorously rubbing against each other~~ but it's still a factor to be scaled down some. You do it once, you get addicted, it becomes a daily thing, you slowly separate faster. I'm not only telling you this from what I've seen but from what I've almost experienced as well. I know it's hard to be from the one you like. But just consider this.
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Shady Kayoz	Feb 26 2013, 02:08 PM Post #14
It's Shady, baby. Posts: 1,677 Group: S Rank Hero Member #13,210 Joined: August 20, 2012 Gender: Female Country: Australia Wii Friend Code: I don't have a Wii ^.^ 3DS Friend Code: 2492 - 4957 - 9476 Game Currently Playing: Sonic Generations, Sonic Unleashed.	(okay who then T.K.C??) Yeah. One of my bad habbits but I'll give it a try, I'm already not seeing him for 10 days (now 5) so yeah. ~~there is a thing called a strap on...~~ Thanks anyway all advice is good
	Easy- Porter Robinson Find me on Facebook: Hady Perry Some of my quiz results Nega Shady "Forget who you have seen before. For this is just the begining, and no one can stop the power which I pocess.Looks are never as they seem, so fear me now or you shall die a fool." My wwffy quizes for Girls wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 2 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 3 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 4 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 5 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 6 wwffy?... Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 7 NEW wwffy...? Sonic, Shadow or Silver part 8 Team Shadow Kidz Team Shadow Kidz members Shady the hedgehog (me) Josh the hedgehog JCat MGSPhantom Silver Miles Note:This has NOTHING to do with Dark Gaia, so anyone can join. Also P.M me if you have any qeustions or would like to join.


Eren Jaeger	Feb 26 2013, 11:38 PM Post #15
"I will kill ALL of the Titans!" Posts: 2,305 Group: S Rank Hero Member #12,433 Joined: October 2, 2011 Gender: Male	((Of course I'm not going to air your laundry here.)) Still artificial. Regardless, it's still a matter to be taken more seriously. But maybe this distance will be good. Just don't essentially rape each other the next time you see each other.
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