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Getting to Know a Girl While She's Working; I've got problems...
Topic Started: Jul 7 2012, 04:57 PM (305 Views)
snow toilet Jul 7 2012, 04:57 PM Post #1
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 Normally, I wouldn't come here with my problems but I have a reason that you may read below. So there's a girl I dig very much who is very kind, has a great smile and is very cool. I've gotten to know her a bit here and there, a little from her and the rest through a certain social network. Someone gave me advice to look this up but not creep on her or anything. So that's what I did, I peeped her interests so I have a basic idea of who she is. Now there's a problem. I only see her at her place of business which is at a gas station that is sort of right down my street. Usually I frequent there for cigarettes and iced tea but a new reason has been brought up and it's because of her. Don't think I'm a creepy person because I'm not but I only go to that gas station because of her and no others. She's not always there so when she isn't I only buy like a pack of smokes and be on my way and wait until another day. Every day I talk to her a bit. This girl has worked there for quite some time now and it wasn't until recently I seemed to have discovered a connection. In rich dummy terms she will have a different tone when taking my business, laugh at my fantastically bad jokes and give me smiles that she didn't give any other customers. She knows I'm a frequent customer and have been for two years. But, like I said, nothing ever struck me before until now. I know what her name is but only through my brother who used to work for the chain and I think she knows my name because I don't use anything but a card and my name will show on the receipt.

Here's where everything goes a bit strange. There was a different girl there a while ago that I used to be into and when trying to talk to her she would make me feel like she was annoyed and wanted me to leave. The one I'm into now has never given me that impression. There's a feeling I'm getting that the signs she might be giving me may be because she's professionally obligated to be so nice to me and that I may have gotten the wrong impression from her and I've never been given such a treatment from anyone else there or anywhere I frequent. The other girl I mentioned was a bit of a burnout so she most likely didn't care how she treats a customer. Now I'm stuck with a bad feeling of being fallen in love. I try to get to know her but because I'm a bit overweight and don't talk to many women I'm really obligated to be nervous at first and then I don't see her for a few more days.

I don't want to talk to anyone I know because they will most likely go tell her how I feel to be a dick and there's a large possibility that she might be scared off with a bad impression from me that I sent them up there because I was too much of a wuss. So, SB, the advice I'm looking for is simple. Though this girl works at a place that I go to for my personal needs I really like her. Should I continue to get to know her and give her little bits of information at a time until the possible mark of asking her out arises or should I stop now? Why stop now is because I don't know if what I'm doing is bothering her. She doesn't know I like her but I've given her small signs and they don't seem to bother her but maybe it's because she's being nice. I don't know. Getting to know a girl where she works is something I don't know if they mind or not.

Thanks for hearing me out.

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KogaHarine Jul 7 2012, 05:16 PM Post #2
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 I'd say wait it out for a bit to get to know her a little more. As for the asking out part? Well ask her if she would like to get a coffee or some lunch together sometime. Just be friendly and don't make it feel like a date. Having something casual like that may be the best door opener in your case. When you're talking to her you could slip it in at the end of the conversation. This way if she says no you can just smile, say thank you and leave with your smokes and what have you.

Point is just talk to her and ask her to something that will be comfortable. Hell even a lunch at McDonald's would be a good idea just cause you are taking the time to get to know this girl. But don't rush it though. Read the signs from her during this instance. She's not at her job so she can be how she really is and you will more than likely know whether she is into you just from this small get together.
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