Would it be okay...

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Would it be okay...
Tweet Topic Started: Jan 18 2012, 06:42 PM (334 Views)
kimmiechao	Jan 18 2012, 06:42 PM Post #1
Launch Base Act 1 Posts: 288 Group: B Rank Guardian Member #12,545 Joined: November 19, 2011 Xbox Live Gamertag: Kimmstaa	If I rant the hell out? Like literally just type a good novel out about my life the past year or so? Possibly get some advice? I have been so depressed and keeping everything inside because I literally feel like I have no one to talk to or that anyone will understand. I know I only come here once a day and post on a few things here and there, but I've seen some of the other help topics. I can tell there are good souls on this forum. Even if no one responds, I think it would just be extremely helpful for me to pour this all out somewhere.



HollyYoshi	Jan 18 2012, 06:59 PM Post #2
I object to your claims Posts: 15,025 Group: =SB= Queens Member #9,640 Joined: January 9, 2009 Gender: Female Country: United States of America 3DS Friend Code: 1891-1489-0768 Nintendo ID: Agent_Blaire Game Currently Playing: Yoshi's Island	Of course it would be okay. There are some caring individuals on this site and I'm there would be someone willing to offer their support. (=



RektangleSquared	Jan 18 2012, 08:08 PM Post #3
SegaBridged's RektangleThermometer Posts: 598 Group: A Rank Knight Member #9,818 Joined: March 7, 2009 Xbox Live Gamertag: F4LLN Sp1R1t	Go for it. Sonic Blast does not judge. Sonic Blast forgives. Sonic Blast forgets. [/cheesy anon joke]
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Wallace	Jan 18 2012, 08:13 PM Post #4
Break out the L-word. The other L-word. Posts: 1,889 Group: S Rank Hero Member #11,873 Joined: February 24, 2011	I'm always happy to lend my ear to any fellow human being who feels that their feelings should be befall a compassionate soul.
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Clementine	Jan 19 2012, 05:04 AM Post #5
Yep. Posts: 1,397 Group: A Rank Hero Member #12,099 Joined: May 26, 2011 Steam ID: Maximus123458 Game Currently Playing: Megaman X6	Sure! As much as this forum is about Sonic, we always want to hear out and support members that have troubles in their real life. ^^



Captain Olimar	Jan 19 2012, 07:51 PM Post #6
Mushroom Hill Act 2 Posts: 765 Group: E Rank Hero Member #10,061 Joined: June 15, 2009 Xbox Live Gamertag: sleepy07494 3DS Friend Code: 3308-4561-5875	Feel free. Like Rumond said, Sonic Blast does not judge. It's unhealthy to keep everything inside, and I'd be happy to lend an ear.



kimmiechao	Jan 20 2012, 08:32 AM Post #7
Launch Base Act 1 Posts: 288 Group: B Rank Guardian Member #12,545 Joined: November 19, 2011 Xbox Live Gamertag: Kimmstaa	Okay..where to begin.. I just recently got out of a long term relationship. I still love this person with all my heart, and we even had a baby together. The problem was he was abusive towards me almost from the beginning. And it slowly got worse and worse as our relationship progressed. He would hit me, choke me, tell me how worthless I was and he was all I had, even said he was going to kill me before. I was scared but I was so in love I tried everything to make it work. He eventually got it to the point where he had complete control of me. I was paying all of the bills, I was the only one taking care of our son during the day, I couldn't go out or talk to anybody. I was completely isolated. But everytime I tried to say something he would start to get beyond angry. One day he finally left serious bruises on my arm in the form of handprints. Once I saw those I knew I had to run for the sake of my son if nothing else. So when my ex went to work I packed all of my things and went back to my parents. I got my restraining order against him this week. I should feel satisfied and safe, but I can't help but miss him. Not the abusive him, the man that I really fell in love with at the beginning of our relationship. But I know he's gone for good. I just don't know how to get over it.. I know I am doing the right thing and I can never go back, it's just hard to face that he is really gone.



RektangleSquared	Jan 20 2012, 08:40 AM Post #8
SegaBridged's RektangleThermometer Posts: 598 Group: A Rank Knight Member #9,818 Joined: March 7, 2009 Xbox Live Gamertag: F4LLN Sp1R1t	Everyone meets someone or some people at some point in their life that change it drastically. The sad part is, usually those people change or leave. We all deal with it in different ways. I may be 14, but throughout my whole life I've had to deal with this fact and suffer from severe depression. I resorted to cutting, attempting suicide, therapy, you name it. But the only thing that really helped was learning to love myself and drowning myself in music. I'm on my way to finding myself through this method, and it's also getting me to know who is or ISN'T best for me. You may love him, and he might even love you, but he isn't right for you. I'm glad you ran before it got too late. You may need therapy. Just please don't hurt yourself or bottle up your emotions. You need to let out everything you've got to any one that you've got that will listen. 1. Music. 2. Learn about yourself. 3. Learn to be happy with who you are. 4. Find the right people. 5. Every time you feel an emotion, tell someone. Just to get you started. I hope I've helped.
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kimmiechao	Jan 20 2012, 08:45 AM Post #9
Launch Base Act 1 Posts: 288 Group: B Rank Guardian Member #12,545 Joined: November 19, 2011 Xbox Live Gamertag: Kimmstaa	I forgot to add that the three girls he has dated before me all have restraining orders against him as well. So I know he won't be changing anytime soon.. I'm sorry to hear that Rumond. I've also struggled with depression throughout my life even before I met my ex. It's a hard thing to admit to someone though. But there have def been days where I couldn't even move I was just so overwhelmed with sadness. And all of this happening in the past year and a half def didn't help me at all.



RektangleSquared	Jan 20 2012, 08:52 AM Post #10
SegaBridged's RektangleThermometer Posts: 598 Group: A Rank Knight Member #9,818 Joined: March 7, 2009 Xbox Live Gamertag: F4LLN Sp1R1t	Did you know about them and their restraining orders before this happened? But I know exactly how depression can affect you. I have offered all I can think of. :/
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kimmiechao	Jan 20 2012, 08:53 AM Post #11
Launch Base Act 1 Posts: 288 Group: B Rank Guardian Member #12,545 Joined: November 19, 2011 Xbox Live Gamertag: Kimmstaa	No, I just found out about it when I went to go get my own restraining order against him.



RektangleSquared	Jan 20 2012, 08:56 AM Post #12
SegaBridged's RektangleThermometer Posts: 598 Group: A Rank Knight Member #9,818 Joined: March 7, 2009 Xbox Live Gamertag: F4LLN Sp1R1t	That must have been a slap to the face. Is there anything else you'd like me to do?
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KogaHarine	Jan 20 2012, 09:38 AM Post #13
The Black Swordsman Posts: 3,253 Group: E Rank Legend Member #7,594 Joined: April 19, 2008 Gender: Male Playstation Network ID: Goldth 3DS Friend Code: 047386746636 Nintendo ID: KogaHarine Game Currently Playing: Fantasy Life	Sorry if this seems blunt but I figure it's best to not beat around the bush and to allow myself to rant a little bit. I'm not trying to upset you but it's better to get my point across this way. Quote: The problem was he was abusive towards me almost from the beginning. And it slowly got worse and worse as our relationship progressed. He would hit me, choke me, tell me how worthless I was and he was all I had, even said he was going to kill me before. If he was abusive from the beginning that should have been an indicator of what the rest of the relationship would be like. And you should never, EVER allow someone to put their hands on you. I don't give a shit how much you care about them or how much they care about you, violence is never acceptable. There comes a point where there is a fine line between being playful and being abusive. And if he was abusive then you should have never been with him to begin with. Also he is NOT all you had. You always have other options. And if he has threatened you then that would be something to take him to court on. He's already abused you so that would have been an instant court date. There are laws in place to protect you from domestic abuse. Quote: I was scared but I was so in love I tried everything to make it work. He eventually got it to the point where he had complete control of me. I was paying all of the bills, I was the only one taking care of our son during the day, I couldn't go out or talk to anybody. I was completely isolated. But everytime I tried to say something he would start to get beyond angry. I hate to say this to you but that's not love. That's fear and submission. He controlled, manipulated, and scared you into thinking he loved you when in actuality he was merely using you just like he's used others (and that's an assumption based off of the restraining orders already against him... Which I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that I'm right...). Love should never be based off what this relationship was. You can't honestly say you liked or enjoyed being abused, can you? I doubt it if you just left him. You needed someone and you turned to someone you thought was good and when things were bad you stuck around because you needed the support. That's called being dependent. You had no independence, individuality, or even freedom. He's probably already over being with you and searching again too. Spoiler: click to toggle One day he finally left serious bruises on my arm in the form of handprints. Once I saw those I knew I had to run for the sake of my son if nothing else. So a few serious bruises is what caused you to leave him? Considering he's abused you before that I'm questioning how badly he abused you on a regular basis. Quote: So when my ex went to work I packed all of my things and went back to my parents. I got my restraining order against him this week. I should feel satisfied and safe, but I can't help but miss him. Now I'm gonna change tone for a second: Missing something that has become normal in your life is natural. Once you become used to something it becomes hard to let it go. However in this case you need to get over him. That restraining order means he is not allowed to see you. And if he tries you had better be ready to call the police. Don't even try to reason with him or talk to him. Block him completely out of your life. Otherwise he may come back to harm you... Quote: Not the abusive him, the man that I really fell in love with at the beginning of our relationship. I'm curious on this. If he was abusive from the start what could possibly make him worth keeping? Quote: But I know he's gone for good. I just don't know how to get over it.. I know I am doing the right thing and I can never go back, it's just hard to face that he is really gone. You forget about him and move on with your life. Give your son a future and live for yours and his sake. You'll eventually find someone who will treat you right. Be patient and don't allow yourself to lose sight of who you are. Love is something that has to be shared. Love is not cruel nor can it harm you. People can be cruel and will harm you but someone who genuinely cares about you will come and you will eventually know what true love is. Like I said, I'm only 19 but I've experienced only a small glimpse of what the true meanings of love are. You will know when the right person comes. There are signs and you will read them without even thinking about it and before you know it you will realize your feelings. Find someone who likes being around you but also gives you space to be your own person and treats you with respect and kindness. There are guys out there you just have to search.



kimmiechao	Jan 29 2012, 07:24 PM Post #14
Launch Base Act 1 Posts: 288 Group: B Rank Guardian Member #12,545 Joined: November 19, 2011 Xbox Live Gamertag: Kimmstaa	Thanks for all the advice guys.. Like I said I kind of just needed to vent if nothing else. I really don't have anybody I can confide in. I know what I have to do now and I'm definitely moving on with life in the right direction now. Thank you again for hearing me out.



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