I could use help...

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I could use help...
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KogaHarine	Jul 4 2011, 12:01 PM Post #1
The Black Swordsman Posts: 3,253 Group: E Rank Legend Member #7,594 Joined: April 19, 2008 Gender: Male Playstation Network ID: Goldth 3DS Friend Code: 047386746636 Nintendo ID: KogaHarine Game Currently Playing: Fantasy Life	Okay so many of you know my situation from what I've said in the Shack. I don't get what it is with women and why they always go for the jerky guys (or at least the women I tend to meet...). I'm told I'm a really nice guy and that I'm really sweet but that doesn't change the fact that I'm left for a jerk or an ex who only has hurt them and makes them feel like dirt... I just don't know what to do anymore and I feel like maybe it's me and the way I am. Is it cause I'm too nice or that I try to prove myself in everything that I do or is it something else? I could really use the advice and any tips that you all may have. Your pretty much the only people I can turn to... I greatly appreciate the help...



Lord English	Jul 4 2011, 12:08 PM Post #2
Sandopolis Act 2 Posts: 2,066 Group: S Rank Hero Member #10,696 Joined: January 19, 2010	From what I've seen from your Shack posts, here's the advice I can give: Don't try so hard. You seem to be in the mindset that you absolutely need to always have a girlfriend. If you've broken up with someone, take some time to get over it before jumping right back into the market. Just take things slow, and don't try to juggle multiple girls at once. I've only had one girlfriend before though, so I'd take this advice with a grain of salt.



Lady Miracle	Jul 4 2011, 12:12 PM Post #3
[insert something cheerful here] Posts: 8,037 Group: Former Monarchs Member #9,289 Joined: August 20, 2008	The way I see it, you're still fairly young, so relax. It takes a while to meet the right person, who is, by the way, someone who can truly value and appreciate the good in you. Not just any old pretty face who only wants a thrill ride or a status accessory and nothing more.
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KogaHarine	Jul 4 2011, 12:14 PM Post #4
The Black Swordsman Posts: 3,253 Group: E Rank Legend Member #7,594 Joined: April 19, 2008 Gender: Male Playstation Network ID: Goldth 3DS Friend Code: 047386746636 Nintendo ID: KogaHarine Game Currently Playing: Fantasy Life	Jack Noir Jul 4 2011, 12:08 PM From what I've seen from your Shack posts, here's the advice I can give: Don't try so hard. You seem to be in the mindset that you absolutely need to always have a girlfriend. If you've broken up with someone, take some time to get over it before jumping right back into the market. Just take things slow, and don't try to juggle multiple girls at once. I've only had one girlfriend before though, so I'd take this advice with a grain of salt. I know but it doesn't help that I'm having trouble getting over her... It's not that I have to have a girlfriend it's the fact that I like the comfort of having one and being able to share my feelings with someone I'm close to... I don't like having a girlfriend for the sake of having one I like having one for the benefits (no giggity... please) of having one. And I know I shouldn't look for a pretty face. She had a great personality and made me feel like I was on top of the world... I thought I had found a great girlfriend in Brittany but she ended up going back to her ex and what makes it worse was that she couldn't tell me because she didn't want to hurt me...



Wallace	Jul 4 2011, 12:17 PM Post #5
Break out the L-word. The other L-word. Posts: 1,889 Group: S Rank Hero Member #11,873 Joined: February 24, 2011	I don't think you can really be too nice. Nice guys finish last, right? But the reward is always better. I don't have any experience to know if that expression is actually true, but I'd like to think it is. I also don't think this is a problem with yourself. I just think you haven't met the right person yet. I'm sure you will, some day. Also, what Silver said. You don't need a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend, because of the "status quo" or whatever. The right person will come eventually, but that also doesn't mean you have to stop looking. But then again, also like what Silver said, I don't have any experience with these things, since I've never had even one girlfriend. So yeah.
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KogaHarine	Jul 4 2011, 12:23 PM Post #6
The Black Swordsman Posts: 3,253 Group: E Rank Legend Member #7,594 Joined: April 19, 2008 Gender: Male Playstation Network ID: Goldth 3DS Friend Code: 047386746636 Nintendo ID: KogaHarine Game Currently Playing: Fantasy Life	ectoBiologist Jul 4 2011, 12:17 PM I don't think you can really be too nice. Nice guys finish last, right? But the reward is always better. I don't have any experience to know if that expression is actually true, but I'd like to think it is. I also don't think this is a problem with yourself. I just think you haven't met the right person yet. I'm sure you will, some day. Also, what Silver said. You don't need a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend, because of the "status quo" or whatever. The right person will come eventually, but that also doesn't mean you have to stop looking. But then again, also like what Silver said, I don't have any experience with these things, since I've never had even one girlfriend. So yeah. I just wish getting the reward wasn't so hard and such a painful path. I don't need a girlfriend for the fact that it makes me look good in others eyes. I just like having someone to share my feelings with and to be able to just feel good about being with. I don't care if people think different of me for not having one (hell my roommates make fun of me for the way I can show my feelings and how "girly" I am. I was raised by my mother and grandmother so I learned my mannerisms from them... And it's annoying... I never can tell them anything without fear of ridicule...) I just want to find someone who will appreciate me for who I am...



Lady Miracle	Jul 4 2011, 12:29 PM Post #7
[insert something cheerful here] Posts: 8,037 Group: Former Monarchs Member #9,289 Joined: August 20, 2008	Well, there are several outlets for letting all your feelings hang without the fear of being judged. Get a trustworthy friend who won't criticize your way of being; look for a school counselor; try talking to your mother or grandmother or any relative that can understand how you feel; get a journal or start a blog; reflect on your feelings through some meditative manner, etc. And while you're at it, take the time to work on feeling better. Allowing yourself to sink into grief or depression doesn't help. Don't look at it as sad or hopeless, but rather an opportunity for you and Brittany to grow stronger, learn more and meet more people. Try to perk up your own mood. Give yourself treats, like, I don't know, go out more often, party with friends, try new things, to keep your mind busy with something fun and healthy. You get the idea.
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Fwiss	Jul 4 2011, 01:42 PM Post #8
Sandopolis Act 1 Posts: 1,567 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,080 Joined: June 18, 2008 Gender: Male Steam ID: fwiss1174	Start a project on something you're good at. That's how I get past the crushing loneliness. Sadly, a blog won't get you as far as a good friend will and it pretty much sets you up for bad things. Trying something you've never tried is a good idea, too.
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Breezy	Jul 4 2011, 05:54 PM Post #9
We all make choices. But in the end, our choices make us Posts: 2,868 Group: E Rank Legend Member #10,732 Joined: February 3, 2010 Game Currently Playing: The Legend of Zelda: The Minish Cap	I would like to say, that this whole, nice guys finish last crap, is not true. I don't care how much "proof" you have to prove it right. Its just a bunch of bullshit. One thing I can say Star, is that, even though Im a girl myself, I know how it feels to be betrayed. To not feel good enough. Ive had my heart broken plenty of times and I always wondered what I did wrong. But the answer is, its not YOU who is the problem. Its THEM. The girls you have hooked up with and all. Of course they didn't work out. Your too young, and girls your age aren't looking for something that will last. Their hearts aren't set on what yours might be. Their careless and selfish. There are some exceptions out there. And she IS out there. That one girl who will appreciate your kindness and sensitivity. Who won't leave you for some loser. Its just all about having patience. I know its seems very hard and nearly impossible to put up with waiting. But for now, just take things easy. If it doesn't work out with the next girl, so what? She MAY have seemed incredible and everything you ever wanted, but it not working out will give you the chance to find the girl who will open your eyes and make you realize that she is all worth it.
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Dr. Prower	Jul 4 2011, 06:21 PM Post #10
I like being a gentleman sometimes Posts: 1,375 Group: A Rank Hero Member #10,989 Joined: April 22, 2010 Game Currently Playing: PMD: Explorers of Sky	Let me tell you this, bud, everything that Breezy just said was entirely true. Those girls that left you for jerks are immature, and they have a lot of growing up to do. They don't get what they're giving up. I can tell you right now that the wait won't be easy, it may not be short, but it is worth it. Cause one day, that special someone will walk into your life. It probably won't be love at first sight, but you'll slowly come to realize that you have feelings for her. And before you know it, you'll end up giving your whole heart to that person, and you'll never regret it. They'll always be by your side, they'll always lift you up when you're down, and they'll always appreciate everything you do for them. And one day, you'll look back at all those girls that you left behind and you realize that they mean nothing to you, that you don't need anyone else but your special lover to be happy.
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KogaHarine	Jul 4 2011, 06:24 PM Post #11
The Black Swordsman Posts: 3,253 Group: E Rank Legend Member #7,594 Joined: April 19, 2008 Gender: Male Playstation Network ID: Goldth 3DS Friend Code: 047386746636 Nintendo ID: KogaHarine Game Currently Playing: Fantasy Life	My main thing is I've lost a lot of confidence in myself... I had a lot of... issues as a kid and so now as an adult I have problems (now more than ever since all this crap has happened...) and I just don't feel comfortable even asking a girl out anymore, let alone just walking up to them and talking to them. And it doesn't help that none of my friends are willing to even help me... At times I wonder if I even really have friends since none of them can seem to help me when I need them... I've helped many of my friends but I never get any help from them... So that's also brought my self esteem down. I can act cheery and happy all I want but it doesn't fill this void... And it sucks knowing that I'm gonna have to keep going through all this til I find the right one... I've tried many outlets for my frustration and pain but one can only do so much before they tend to start feeling like it's not worth it anymore... I know I shouldn't give up but it's just so hard for me because I don't really have a great past with my family not wanting much to do with me, my friends ending up not really being my friends, and any relationship going down the tubes... And it sucks... I guess it's probably so hard for me since I'm so young... I consider myself a bit mature for my age (when it comes to relationships... I'm a goofball but I know when to be serious and when to be comical...) and that's probably why it's so hard. I grew up somewhat old fashioned (thinking that a relationship should be based on friendship and a common love of each other...). So it's probably why I have so much trouble when I try to be a gentleman and do what I think I should... And I know the wait will probably be long... I'm not a very patient person and so that also makes it rather difficult... I just have to learn to deal with it I guess...



Breezy	Jul 4 2011, 06:35 PM Post #12
We all make choices. But in the end, our choices make us Posts: 2,868 Group: E Rank Legend Member #10,732 Joined: February 3, 2010 Game Currently Playing: The Legend of Zelda: The Minish Cap	Dude, I lost all the friends that I had, and I honestly could give two shits about that. If they aren't there for you when you need em, then their not your friends. Ive had to learn that the hard way. I hardly talk to anyone I used to hang out with all the time. You think I would down and depressed about me "having no friends". But honestly, Im happier than Ive ever been. It feels so good to get rid of all the negative things in your life, including the negative people. Those that call themselves your "friends". From what Ive been through, they could care less about you. I know its tough, but you can't dwell on all the negative shit that's happened to you. You gotta try to lift your head up and stay positive. Things will look up. I know. Ive been in the darkest place, feeling like no one gives a f.uck. But sooner or later you find yourself and it all makes sense. Just don't think about waiting for the right one and all that. Try to enjoy yourself. Enjoy life. You are so young after all. All the good things will come to you when you least expect it.
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