Not sure how to put this, but... Help?

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Not sure how to put this, but... Help?
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Radar	Nov 13 2010, 12:05 PM Post #1
Good to be back Posts: 2,496 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,063 Joined: June 14, 2008 Gender: Male	A lot of things have been bugging me recently, and I'd really appreciate someone to at least lend an ear to me, if not offer advice. I don't want to type paragraph upon paragraph until I know someone's willing to listen.... So, please?



Ludichaos	Nov 13 2010, 12:17 PM Post #2
[Outrealm Vagabond] Posts: 4,994 Group: C Rank Legend Member #11,272 Joined: July 25, 2010	swings in As your broski, real or not, I should at least be here for ya. \|P So in other words, if you need someone to listen to what's on your mind, I'll gladly offer my services, Radar. And I'll try to offer advice if I can, of course.
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Cat	Nov 13 2010, 12:23 PM Post #3
Your fate is mine to decide. Posts: 1,270 Group: A Rank Hero Member #10,657 Joined: January 3, 2010 Steam ID: The_Cats_Right_Paw	I second what Chaos said. He seems to have beaten me to the punch. ^_^;; All joking aside, just know that I'm here if you need.



Radar	Nov 13 2010, 02:51 PM Post #4
Good to be back Posts: 2,496 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,063 Joined: June 14, 2008 Gender: Male	Thanks, you two. ^^ Sorry if I bore you both to tears with overly thought paragraphs. Well, I guess you could say my IRL "friend" front has been a little weak recently. Not only have I lost a best friend (or so I thought) due to me being a little too honest, but... I've also lost quite a bit of a pack of friends as well. And this all started because of the aforementioned best friend... This has been happening for a few months now, but it really went to depressing levels today. One of the people who I was starting to get on quite well with, and was talking to on an almost day to day basis, started to drift away. It was this stupid thing about who would start the conversation first. After a few weeks or months, one of the two, she removed me from the list of her friends, and didn't even explain why. I tried to make conversation with her beforehand, but... It fell short every time. :/ This all happened because of something else, but I've written enough for now already.



Ludichaos	Nov 13 2010, 03:02 PM Post #5
[Outrealm Vagabond] Posts: 4,994 Group: C Rank Legend Member #11,272 Joined: July 25, 2010	Hm... that does seem like a bit of a problem. So if I'm reading this right, you and your best friend have had a bit of a falling out recently, and for some reason this has lead to a sort of ripple effect that's making others avoid you, yeah? That's no good. :/ Admittedly, I wasn't a big people person back at school, so I only had a small circle of friends, and about one or two I considered to be close firends.On top of that, I'm not too sure on all the details. So I'm not sure what advice I can offer at this stage, I'm afraid. ^^; However, if there's more, I'll gladly listen and help where I can.
	【One third of Sonic Blast's Legendary Australian Trio. The last remaining member 】


Radar	Nov 13 2010, 03:11 PM Post #6
Good to be back Posts: 2,496 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,063 Joined: June 14, 2008 Gender: Male	Well, sort of. At least it sure seems like it. This said best friend, I... Umm. Failed at telling her how I felt, if you know what I mean. And I recognised how badly I messed up. I made her the best present I could, I got my ass off and did something; I made her a custom CD, artwork and all. She looks at it briefly and says "thanks", letting a very forced looking smile form on her face. Then, that following Friday, she has a party that seemingly almost everyone but me is invited to. I have to watch it all get planned out during school, and then the aftermath results in me seeing hundreds of photos. It really wasn't fun to see.



The Milkman	Nov 13 2010, 07:58 PM Post #7
I am The Milkman. Posts: 523 Group: B Rank Knight Member #11,336 Joined: August 21, 2010	Radar Nov 13 2010, 03:11 PM then the aftermath results in me seeing hundreds of photos. Photos of what? Spiderman? No, seriously. What was it?
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Ludichaos	Nov 13 2010, 08:08 PM Post #8
[Outrealm Vagabond] Posts: 4,994 Group: C Rank Legend Member #11,272 Joined: July 25, 2010	I'm assuming of the party, Zed. But I could be wrong. I actually seem to remember you mentioning this party before, Radar. That sucks. :/ So, is this aparantly a result of her expecting you to feel a certain way and you not saying so yourself, or you feeling as such and her finding out from a source that wasn't you? Or something similar, I'm just trying to get my facts straight here.
	【One third of Sonic Blast's Legendary Australian Trio. The last remaining member 】


Radar	Nov 14 2010, 04:44 AM Post #9
Good to be back Posts: 2,496 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,063 Joined: June 14, 2008 Gender: Male	Chaos is correct. It was of the party. I'm not even exaggerating when I say there were 600+ of them. I messed up in telling her that I "liked" her, and so she took it badly and we proceeded to drift. :/



~~Raven the Fox~~	Nov 14 2010, 05:00 AM Post #10
I'll never let you go Posts: 2,954 Group: Game Over :( Member #10,731 Joined: February 3, 2010	Dude...that really has to suck, man...I'm here for you if you need anything. i'd say just try your best to get through it if you can. Other than that....I'm not sure what I...well, you can try talking to your ''best friend'' and if that doesn't work, well then I don't know what else to say, sorry.



Radar	Nov 14 2010, 06:38 AM Post #11
Good to be back Posts: 2,496 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,063 Joined: June 14, 2008 Gender: Male	That was pretty much the first thing I tried. She didn't listen.



Eivana	Nov 14 2010, 07:18 AM Post #12
The Sneering Blaze Posts: 182 Group: E Rank Guardian Member #10,673 Joined: January 10, 2010	Okay. I'm going to be blunt here, and this may sound mean, but you need to hear it. She is not a friend that you need to be hanging around. She sounds like she's cowardly, for one thing. She won't sit down and have a conversation with you about what is wrong. Even if she did not want to be your friend, she should have at least given you a reason why instead of leaving you hanging. She should not have even accepted a gift from you if she was not going to be thankful for it. If she isn't going to listen to you, then there is nothing that you can do to make her listen. People never do what they don't want to do. And for the whole party thing... I'm sorry but that should prove what kind of person she is right there. If I were you, I would find better friends. People like that are not worth your time and effort. I'm sorry to sound mean about this, and if I am wrong or have confused something with something else, please tell me. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here to listen, you can always PM me for somthing if it's too personal. I'm sorry, and I hope things get better for you. Edited by Eivana, Nov 14 2010, 07:19 AM.
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Radar	Nov 15 2010, 01:54 PM Post #13
Good to be back Posts: 2,496 Group: S Rank Hero Member #9,063 Joined: June 14, 2008 Gender: Male	See... My only problem with this is that I actually LIKE the others in the group. I just seemed to be looked down upon right now for a reason that seems to be never brought up, and I never know how to make things better. :/



~~Raven the Fox~~	Nov 15 2010, 01:57 PM Post #14
I'll never let you go Posts: 2,954 Group: Game Over :( Member #10,731 Joined: February 3, 2010	Okay, if she won't listen and try to talk to you, then don't be friends with her. She doesn't seem like the person you should be hanging around, not trying to be mean. Just hang out with other friends you KNOW you can trust.



Captain Olimar	Nov 17 2010, 07:43 AM Post #15
Mushroom Hill Act 2 Posts: 765 Group: E Rank Hero Member #10,061 Joined: June 15, 2009 Xbox Live Gamertag: sleepy07494 3DS Friend Code: 3308-4561-5875	From what I gather it seems that you really haven't done anything wrong. Try to step back, look at the situation from a calm, outside perspective, as if you are being asked for advice on the situation. Ask yourself "What did I actually do wrong? Is it my fault? Is it healthy to call these people my friends?". It took courage, a lot of courage, to try and tell her that you're interested in her, more courage than I might have, and for that you should feel good. And not only that but you made her a present. I can't think of anyone my age or even a little older that would do that. Like Eivana, I don't mean to be blunt or rude, but she doesn't deserve you. Find someone who does. And as for your other friends, have you tried talking to the about it, or asking them why they won't talk to you. Something like "If you're upset with me I want to know why so we can be friends again,". Best of luck to you, and remember what you told me.



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