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| maria robotnik | Dec 12 2008, 12:59 AM Post #1 |
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I dunno what to do anymore, I just wanna die right now... So there was this guy I fell in love with in the beginning of this year, he´s living in England and I´m living in Germany.... but other than that it was so perfect... We started as friends but he then fell in love with me and in October, we met up in England. It was great, I finally knew what it´s like being in a relationship with someone, and I loved the country, the language and all. Then I had to go back after a week. It made me extremely depressed being away from him, but I kept telling myself it´s worth it. I kept telling myself I could go back to England soon, and see him again, but the depression got worse when he didn´t write to me at all, not even once, and hardly ever answered my text or PMs. Yesterday I wrote to him and asked him what the matter was when he only popped up on MSN once in a while and went off again before I even had the chance to talk to him, and to make it short, he´s not sure if he loves me and he doesn´t have time for me anymore. And now it appears he wants to take a break from the Internet so I dunno if I´ll ever see him again...That came so sudden, I dunno how to handle this... The life I´ve had since the beginning of this year is gone, my chances to go back and see him and the country again is gone, and everything reminds me of him and that **Bleep**ing meeting, I can´t get it out of my mind what he said and did... I need help.... Edited by maria robotnik, Dec 12 2008, 01:02 AM.
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| Lord Tora Unlimited Crusader | Dec 12 2008, 01:25 AM Post #2 |
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I just need one thing cleared up here; just how long after you left did he stop writing/communicating? |
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| maria robotnik | Dec 12 2008, 01:31 AM Post #3 |
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Right after I left... he´d told me when I was over there that he´d be too busy to come on MSN untill the Winter holidays... before I came over we had talked via MSN every day, sometimes even via mic and cam.... Just how am I supposed to handle this...? |
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| Lord Bowie | Dec 12 2008, 01:32 AM Post #4 |
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I'm sorry to hear about this, I can relate.. I am going through something moderately similar now as well (I would rather keep that matter personal) but I can tell how you feel. Now.. it's 1:22 AM so I'm sorry if I am not so eloquent with my wording but I just gotta say that all is not yet lost. People go through change, and whether or not the change ultimately cuts ties or not, I can't say.. that is something only time can reveal. First off maybe he is just stressed, maybe extra elements are at work here that he wants to keep you out of just so you don't worry, I only leave this as a possibility because he hasn't outright said "I don't love you anymore" from what you said it seemed more like a clouded mind and confusion on his part. Furthermore you have to have hope in the relationship, even in dire times, and you need to believe in yourself even more so, otherwise what is the point. "Love is a cruel mistress.." and the truer truth couldn't be said, for the love two individuals have can only be equaled by forms of stress or sadness that appear over time. You two have actually met which makes this much more than a simple empty long distance relationship like most, you know him and he knows you, you've been there and that is a lot one can say. You can't lose hope.. not even in the darkest hours and days.. because hope keeps many things going, without it the only imminence is collapse. If you want to talk more about it over PM or whatever then know I am always an open window for anyone who needs me. Best of luck. |
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| Lord Tora Unlimited Crusader | Dec 12 2008, 01:35 AM Post #5 |
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Right after you left? Ugh... human emotions... our greatest strength and our greatest weakness... From where I'm sitting, a rather uncomfortable office chair just across the road from a noisy highway and a scorching beach, it sounds like this guy is a bit of a jerk. I know that sounds harsh, but think about this logically; don't you think it's awfully convenient that he happened to sever contact with you immediately after your trip was over? Someone who is willing to do that to another human being is not worth all this agonizing over, believe me. |
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| maria robotnik | Dec 12 2008, 01:44 AM Post #6 |
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I dunno what to think. I feel like I was being lied at all the time. If you really love someone, then the distance shouldn´t be a problem. Nor should it be a problem if you´re busy. One message a week would´ve done, and writing an email takes 5 freaking minutes, nothing more. But I´ve been waiting for like 2 months anyway. I was ready to do ANYTHING to save the relationship. I think you´re right Bowie, but Timothy, you´re right too. I dunno whether to hate him or to forgive him... if he ever shows up again that is....
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| Lord Tora Unlimited Crusader | Dec 12 2008, 01:46 AM Post #7 |
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If he shows up again, that's a bonus. But your main concern at the moment is getting out of the depression you've gone and gotten yourself into. And to do that... well, you may have to let go. |
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| Lord Bowie | Dec 12 2008, 01:48 AM Post #8 |
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All I will say is that if he really does end up ending everything right now.. not long after you left, then he isn't worth the stress or grieving. Someone who would do that is extremely false and empty in this instance. But don't take my opinion on this to heart necessarily, like I said there may have been a really horribly timed inconvenience.. bad karma, who knows. Just give it some time to simmer and try to ease your mind of it while you wait the best you can. |
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| Kammy | Dec 12 2008, 01:56 AM Post #9 |
You won't get much closer, 'till you sacrifice it all.
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Whoever you feel in love with, you have pretty much completely fallen for him. Good luck and I hope he writes back. You may even want to choose to end the relationship, but this is only needed if he continues not to talk to you or sends abusive messages. |
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| Kammy | Dec 12 2008, 01:57 AM Post #10 |
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You won't get much closer, 'till you sacrifice it all.
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It's not fair for him to treat you like this. PM me if you want to talk about this issue or anything else. |
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| maria robotnik | Dec 12 2008, 01:57 AM Post #11 |
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I'm engaaaged~
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I´m just so horribly confused. Damn, if this just wouldn´t have been my first relationship, that fact makes it all even worse.... I don´t think I can let go like this, we´ve known each other for like 1 and half a year, he´s been a part of my life all the time. But then again, it may never be the same again.... This is like the worst situation I´ve ever been in in my whole life.... And thanks Kamula! He wouldn´t do that though. He´s the one who chose to end it after all... Edited by maria robotnik, Dec 12 2008, 01:58 AM.
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| Kammy | Dec 12 2008, 02:01 AM Post #12 |
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Do have his phone number? Give him a ring...If he doesn't reply, don't ditch him because he's probably away or something, but you can never tell in this kind of situation 
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| maria robotnik | Dec 12 2008, 03:09 AM Post #13 |
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I don´t wanna hear his voice. |
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| Kammy | Dec 12 2008, 03:35 AM Post #14 |
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Ohh...I feel so sorry for you  *gives maria robotnik a bear hug*
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| Lady Miracle | Dec 13 2008, 01:26 PM Post #15 |
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Kamula, gal, not to be an annoyance, but you double posted unnecessarily at the beginning. If there's a small detail you ever forget to add to your post, just hit the "edit" button underneath it and fix the reply instead of double posting, OK? Back on topic: maria, I can kinda, maybe a little, relate to this situation. My advice is that first, you calm down. Stressing out won't help you. I understand it's hard, I know it may take time, but the best is to calm down until the next time you communicate with him. Take a break, some rest and do anything that relaxes you and your mind. If he's breaking the relationship, then he's not worth the emotions; if he's just having some difficulties, I doubt he'd like to come back and see you so broken up over him. So either way, the best thing is to calm down. Stay positive without going too exaggeratedly optimistic. If necessary, take a small break off the Internet. You may check in just in case he's back, but if it makes you feel worse, then don't stay on too long. Keep hopes up. Life is not over. He may be having problems or something that keep him off. If he just doesn't care anymore, then forget him; a guy like that isn't worth it. Just take your mind off any stressing thought. That has worked for me. Think of the good things you do have and believe that there will be a reasonable solution because there will be one, OK? Like some have offered here alreay, feel free to PM me if you want to talk about it or anything. |
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